For many, acknowledging the spiritual aspect of a loss is a part of the grief process. Questions about faith and spirituality are inevitable when you have a loss. You may notice that your faith is tested or challenged. Some people might find a lot of comfort in their faith community. Others may find that the words of comfort offered don’t resonate with what you need to hear. Some pastors, rabbis, priests, nuns, clerics, and other spiritual leaders may handle this better than others. There is a need for more and better training for faith communities on infant loss.
Here are a few tips that you may consider:
- Allow for the search for meaning
- Each individual grieves differently
- Seek help from a grief counselor
- Include children in rituals such as funerals, memorial services or burials
- Create new rituals such as candle lightings, balloon release or quiet times
- Let the community care for you with meals and other needed resources